The post was written
couple of days ago and it went through major and then minor changes. In the
meantime suddenly I got a whole new way of introducing Roshni. I would like to
Thank Ms MBiAn for reviewing the matter more than couple of times.
Normal Indian Child, no longer a
student but a working Lady. Big Eyes, lots of Innocence and Child Like
Qualities. As far as I can recollect she has been away from home since her
graduation days. Yes, it has its own pros and cons. Post Graduation and then
job, all kept her pulling away from the home. Initial months are surely
difficult but then you settle in and start enjoying. One really enjoys the way
she opens up her few stories out to you. You are sure learn some lessons. You
just lose the track of time listening to it. You should go through some of her
blog posts to know the quality of her thinking, almost 4 years since her last
post. Let me now start this post.
Roshni
In Hindi 'Roshni' means Light. Many ways to associate it. I am talking about Roshni in my life,
the enlightening Light. She is a friend of mine like many other of my friends
and yet Unique in her own way, again like how all my friends are unique in some
way or other. Friends come and leave or stay and they laugh with you, fight,
care, teach you some hard lessons of life and give you those long lasting Happy memories.
Roshni is a friend of
mine I met at the end hours of 2013. Bestie was our common link and we both
already knew a bit about each other, but never had a talk or meet before. We
met at Bestie’s house and talked about various stuffs. Saw some funny TVF
videos and literally fell on the floor while laughing after hearing Alok Nath
jokes. We had Gujarati Thali near CST and then went off. This first meet
deserves a real good place in this post.
We both accepted the fact
that we talked with each other more in our first meeting, than what we would
usually do. It was due to the Bestie that we could quickly get into comfortable
zone with each other. In the mean time, I was busy writing my blog, ie midnight of 31st December. I
celebrated December as a Blogging month and also I was pretty sure I will end
up being in a relationship and have a Girlfriend by 31st December. Well, not
all things happen the way you want. I did write many posts, but no sign of Girl
Friend. I was writing my last post and it did end well. I asked Roshni to read
it, since it contained her mention too. She liked it and then we discussed few
things about our blogs. It is then that I decided I would write a blog about our
friendship or a post on her. It was on a condition that we have some more
meetings to get some content to write about.
Here, its 25th February
as I write this and we just met once in 2014, in January. We plan to have a
meet this weekend, lets see how far we go. Well, one more thing, on 31st she
came directly from office and was a bit worried that she had her office dress
on and not a party wear. Well, the second time when we met, same thing
happened, she had to rush directly from the office to meeting place. Next, I will take you some
key events, mainly they are related to our conversations. An attempt will be
made to maintain chronological order.
In the beginning of any relation one will expect
all goodie goodie talks and at times words like ‘Like’, ‘Love’, ‘Crush’, etc. We started with ‘Hate’. Some talk we had and she said I would have hated her
for something and so on. It turns out that I misunderstood her and went bit off
the track. Around the same time we had our first argument, which was reported. After the first argument, things were back on track and soon we were in a so called ‘Good Friend
Zone’.
Gradually we talked and
discussed a lot about our previous study years. Getting into Engineering and
then Post graduate. Later we dwelled into more detail into our respective
college lives and friends and family. She also came to know that I know more about
her than what she anticipated. Then came our shopping day, Roshni, Bestie and
myself. Shopped here and there. We went to some shoe shop and I just drifted for
a minute or so to esquire about some running shoes. I then turned back towards
the girls and found them at cash counter, finished with their shopping and
payment too. It was real quick.
Then came her Bangalore
Conference and we both got busy in our respective worlds. At times we talked about
Dravid, our families, our just daily affairs of India. By last week of February it felt as if we knew each other since 3-4 years back. Can’t recollect much
from then. Things went up and down and left and right. I was off whatsapp and
facebook for more than a week. Had my Mid-Sems and as soon as it ended I was back in social range. Again our talks would go on, we talked about friendship and how people value and
at times how some people hardly care about others friendship.
Like how I get ‘Happy
Realisation Moments’ midway between my post, same is happening now. Till now
what I was writing covered some stories that happened between us. It doesn’t
say much about her in detail. Let me try to make an attempt.
Few words that come to
my mind when I think of her is Childlike and Soft at heart. Big Eyes though. Initially
I thought of her as Childish and realised that best way to put is that she has
few Innocent Childlike qualities. Don’t ask me to name those qualities. She has
faced some rough times like all of us. One thing I liked about her is that she
learned from her mistake and you can see the change she brought in herself. She
is closed to her parents and also her first cousins. She is slightly less
negative than me and I find it easy to understand her situation. A lot more
Sensitive and she may get hurt quickly if not taken care off. Thanks to her
ability to learn from her mistake, she is becoming stronger day by day.
It was after this long period and just regular talks that few topics changed my perspective for my own self. I generally talk a lot, specially about my personal life, but there were some pages yet to be turned. One day while having a phone chat that those pages gradually turned. Here there was someone with whom I can discuss few things for the first time.
It is in this respect that Roshni suits here a lot. Bringing a ray of Light
which Lighted up a whole new perspective of mine. The light helped me discover that I have more pages in my Life than what I had been thinking so far.
We might be having a
meeting this Sunday (2nd March), deadline for this post is 28th February. Under
certain circumstances, I may take liberty to extend the deadline. Well, I took the liberty and extended the deadline. About the Sunday meet, will come up with it next time. More interesting, let Roshni take this task up of writing next post. Let her include her side of story and she i way better writer than me, both in terms of quality of language and depth of thoughts.
It is good to make use of Light that others bring to our life, but don't forget to reflect that back on them and also enlighten as many Life as you can.